You know what’s more difficult than asking a girl out on a date? Asking a girl you’ve never met, out on a date. It is really hard to get a girl to trust you and go out with you just through texting or chatting. And remember that there are so many other guys out there who are also trying to impress your girl on chat.


I’m assuming that you are on this page because you have already picked your girl. So get familiar with the profile of the girl you want to impress. Make yourself noticed through indirect interactions. Kindle the curiosity in her to know about you. After some time, throw your first Hi. Wait for her reply. Though all this seem simple, it requires  proper planing and some background work at least a month or two before the first Hi.

Step By Step Guide To Impress A Girl

(Right From the first Hi To A Physical Date)

Beware! Your First Online Chat Is Like Your First Physical Date

Finding a girl online is pretty simple. But remember if the girl you try to impress is someone, you don’t want to miss out (may be your secret crush) then you should be really careful. Because your first conversation is like your first date. Based on the impression you create you will be judged by her. And first impressions are very important. So plan ahead!

Step 1: Get Familiar With Her Social Media Profile

Get Familiar With Her Social Media Profile

If you want to get a guaranteed response, it’s important to do some background work before firing your first hi. First thing to be accomplished is “Get familiar with her profile”.

Spend some time to go through her profile and get to know her interests, previous posts she shared, likes, dislikes, images, communities and conversations in which she is been active and so on. If she has integrated her pinterest profile with her Facebook, check out the pins she has added recently. All this will help you figure out what kind of person she is and will also help you see how compatible you guys are. But make sure you don’t like some of her posts or pictures because that will clearly tell her that you’ve been stalking her online.

Step 2: Make Your Presence Felt Slowly

Make Your Presence Felt Slowly

Now you are going to make yourself familiar to her without dropping a direct Hi.

If she actively participates in any communities or pages, join in those and make comments for the posts which she comments. For example if she likes the pages Game of thrones or Go home you drunk, you should also like those pages and post your comments. Repeat this regularly at least for 2 weeks. The main idea behind these activities is making her believe that you two have many things in common. If everything goes well, she will notice you. Her next move will be checking your profile to know who you are. This is where your task of “Profile clean up” comes in.

Step 3: Make Your Profile More Impressive

Make Your Profile More Impressive

80% of girls have the habit of checking the profile whenever they get a friend request or hi from the strangers. Especially when it comes from a guy.

So make sure your profile looks genuine and makes you seem like a charming guy.

  • Immediately delete all inappropriate content & controversial posts from your past.
  • Make some interesting posts and involve your friends in conversations regularly. Obviously it will give your profile a more legit look
  • Keep a profile picture that genuinely shows yourself. Generally having a picture with your pet will attract any girl and will make them think that you are a very affectionate guy
  • Always post the images in which yourself and your friends are dressed neatly. Also post images which remind the beautiful moments you spent with your friends during your hangouts or at some parties.
  • Make sure she knows that you hit likes and post comments in the groups and communities in which she participates actively. When your comments are humorous and sensible, she will definitely get impressed. It will also develop a curiosity to visit your profile often.
  • Showcase yourself as a caring and socially responsible person through your posts.
  • Avoid posting the photo shopped or fake profile pictures in facebook or any other social media platform.
  • Do not let yourself get tagged in any inappropriate pictures.

Step 4: Send Out Your First Message

Send Out Your First Message

You have successfully completed the pre-process. So now you are ready to send your first hi. But hang on. If you are going to ping a simple hi, I suggest you to drop that idea right now. Because you have a better way of sending it.

As a rule of thumb, unless otherwise the girl whom you want to chat with, is your friend or co worker, you wouldn’t get a reply to your simple hi.

On an average, every girl on the social networking sites like facebook gets 10 hi messages every day from unknown guys. This is why you have to go with interesting chat starters like

  •  May I disturb the busiest person in the world for a minute to say hi
  • It feels like I’ve seen you somewhere. Do you go to the Central Library often?
  • Hey! Your profile is very interesting. So just wanted to see if you’ll be interested in striking a conversation.

Once you send a hi ,wait for the response patiently. Do not follow it up with many messages. It will irritate her and make you look desperate.

Step 5: Make Interesting Conversations

Make Interesting Conversations


<strong>Be Confident</strong>
You may feel shy when you talk to a person of the opposite sex. It is natural. But don’t let her know that you are nervous.  Online chats are more convenient than the physical dates. Because you don’t need to worry about how you look. This is why impressing a beautiful girl via chat is damn easy and convenient than trying to impress her in person.
<strong>You Got A Reply. So How To Initiate The Conversation?</strong>
You sent a message and she has replied too. Keep in mind that even if you take a week to reply to her message, she won’t send another one. So take a couple of days because you don’t want to seem too desperate and then respond to her. Start the conversation by introducing yourself. This part is easy. 
<strong>How to introduce yourself?</strong>
Start with the Ws, Who you are? What you do? Where you live?When I say ask her where she lives, I mean the area or city, Don’t ask her for her house address, it’ll make you sound like a creep. And try to find common ground.  Tell her how you came across her profile before she asks you about it. Tell her that you loved the posts she liked and shared, and that she seemed like an interesting person so you wanted to get to know her.

Turn into a good listener when she speaks. In order to acknowledge what she says, send your responses  with some fun emoticons from time to time instead of responding with a boring ‘hmmm’. You can find hundreds of emoticons in online dating websites.


<strong>How to make your conversations more interesting?</strong>
Once you both know each other a little better than what’s on your profile, you can ask her some impressive questions like whether she is a dog person or cat person,  what kind of music she listens to, what her goal is etc.

Crack some jokes from time to time. See how she responds. If she had a rough day, you can talk to her in a comforting manner. If she says she was sick yesterday, ask her how she feels on the following day. Let her know that you are there for her.

Never try to impose your thoughts on her. If you feel that she gets bored when you talk about something, stop talking about it.

If you feel that she is good at something, ask her suggestions relating to that. For example, if she is an investment banker, ask her about what stocks she thinks are good to invest in right now. Women love it when their ideas and opinions are given importance.

Also, tell her about things that she does not know. Girls are impressed by wit but be careful not to make her feel like she doesn’t know anything.

Step 6: Avoid These Online Chat Killers

avoid the message killer

Never say “Then?” or “What else?” or “Hmmm”

If she is saying that to you, it means she’s bored and you have to talk about something more interesting.

 If you feel like the conversation is going towards a dead end and you can’t think of anything interesting, it is always better to say that something came up and that you are busy. Tell her that you will text later. This is a million times better than prolonging the conversation with “Then”.

Surprise Her Often Through E-cards Or Messages

Since you can’t send chocolates or flowers, send her e-cards and cute messages.

Step 7: Invite Her To Take Up A Video Chat

Make Interesting Conversations

 Now, for most girls this will take a lot of convincing, but if she’s not comfortable with it, don’t force her. This will make her respect you more. And she may be okay with it in a couple of days.

Step 8 : Set Up A Meet

Set Up A Meet

Initially she will hesitate and will not agree to meet you. Try convincing her but again, do not force her. But when you do meet her, give her specific compliments like “You have beautiful eyes” or “You have lovely hair”. And whether it’s a restaurant or a cafe, let her pick.

Surprise Her With A Gift

If you really like her and feel that things could go somewhere, get her a small gift. Something personal will be better. It does not have to be too expensive. Girls love such unexpected gifts. And it will also let her know that you put a lot of thought into getting her what she likes.

Is there some idea that we missed? Let us know in the comments section.


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6 years ago

Not sure I can wait a hole moth to ask her out. Maybe just part lepidoptera?

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